The Way to Happiness
I’ve never met anyone who didn’t love the movie and the story of The Wizard of Oz by Frank Baum. Though it reminds us of life and the troubles that come with it, the bumpy road and the turns for the worst, like Dorothy, we hope and dream of being somewhere over the rainbow, yet we don’t know how to find it. So, in order to do that, we must first find and then follow the yellow brick road and as we discover, the road is strewn with danger and risks along the way.
What is it I’m trying to say? Life — it’s no picnic. Yet inside us burns a star, a light that shines its brightest. Our passions. Our dreams glistening bright. We slay the dragon and make very good business deals, we build our world creating cities, housing, bridges, and even castles, skyscrapers stretching up to the clouds. There’s caring for others, teaching children everywhere, and writing stories, books, and poems to learn by, to imagine, to love, to heal, to forget, and to dream. Are you on one of these roads or another? Is it where you want to be? Do you see yourself on the road to the wizard taking you home to the place where you’re happiest?
Not so easy as the story goes. There are many questions to ask yourself to get there and sometimes it’s as simple as saying yes to the right thing. Sometimes it’s a road that’s full of learning how to and becoming very knowledgeable about what we want to be doing. But I didn’t give much thought to where I was going when I was young. I didn’t know at an early age what I wanted to do. I couldn’t reach the candle that burns within. There was much that overshadowed it. When I look back, I do remember loving movies, books, and libraries. I was on the road and lost my way. There were others to care for and opportunities were scarce. Making a living the way I knew how and could became the opportunity making the light dimmer. So, I grew in another direction, expanding my knowledge of the world, and learned more about the people I helped and the assistance I gave in the work I did. Time flew by and getting over the rainbow took a very long time.
Luckily, today there are many experts to help guide us and point us in the direction of where we want to be or what we want to be doing. There’re always people to connect with in the field you are interested in. There are counselors of all sorts for every profession, professors, teachers, and mentors. Someone who knows us well and is supportive can be the best advisor. But what do you do when throughout growing up maybe there wasn’t any professional or person that you were okay with or trusted for advice? Maybe you got lost in the shuffle. Or the school you went to or were going to hadn’t been the right school for you and dampened your spirit. That’s hard and would be a dilemma of sorts. No one was paying attention and you never asked about anything. You were stuck in a complex environment that didn’t allow you to stand up or shine. No one’s to blame because if you started blaming others, you might never move forward and get to something better. It’s what you call a clusterfuck or disorganization. Better yet dysfunctional, a failure to communicate your feelings because of those you mistrusted or weren’t comfortable with or you were neglected having no one around for you. You’re definitely not on the yellow brick road and sad not to be on it.
But here’s the thing. There’s a definite road for all of us. If you didn’t find the yellow brick road, you may have painted one yellow and thought that’s where it was. You were relatively happy surviving and earning a living until you weren’t and then you decided to find a better road. That’s awesome — choosing to get off the road you’re on and not settling for painting one. You have to dig into your courage, which you definitely have, and look at where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to go. If it’s somewhere over the rainbow, I’m with you. There is a light that shines in you. It’s always been there. Take away the shadows. Look into your heart and listen. There will always be the second voice that tries to hold you back. You know if you listened and thought what you heard was the right thing, but after trying it out, it wasn’t what you thought it would be or wanted, even if it lasted for years, you established a road that put you where you were going to next and it may have even given you a good living or you learned to work at something different for a while. Nothing is ever wasted. Even if you repeated a mistake twice, you needed that to happen in order to get somewhere else better. It was a lesson that had to be done two times over to grow and make what you learned stick; therefore, mistakes are only information.
The path in the story of Oz to happiness is yellow because it represents the sun and the light that shines from it which takes you to meet the wizard, but you can meet the wizard any time of day or night. Just close your eyes, tap your heels together if you wish, and remember these words, “there’s no place like home.” Here’s another quote I came across once but haven’t found where or who may have written it. “Love is the act of caring about something or someone and knowing why you do.” The road to love is yellow.